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S*x is a way to express love and attraction, which is why it helps solidify emotional intimacy
The hookup culture in modern society makes it look like s*x is the best way to finding the right one. This has totally damaged the dating culture in out society because relationships are now more focused on s*xual intimacy than emotional intimacy.
Women tend to disregard emotional intimacy which includes sharing each other’s experiences, opinions and feelings and would feel guilty about not jumping into bed too soon with a guy they like.
As much as physical intimacy is important, there’s always a reward for waiting. Inspired by YourTango, here are three things to consider before having s*x with your partner.
1. Are you both interested in staying together in long-term commitment: s*x is a way to express love and attraction, which is why it helps solidify emotional intimacy. You have to first see yourself in a committed relationship with your partner otherwise, save yourself the heartbreak.
2. Are you satisfied with where you both stand:Emotional security is constantly overlooked by most people and if you can’t honestly give a ‘yes’ to if you are both secure then you should reconsider the s*x idea.
3. Do you both share the same ideas and values: It’s not how he feels about you, it’s how you feel about him. You should know how he fits into your life in terms of certain values such as work-life balance, religion, lifestyle, parenting style, religion, money management.
Apart from the smelly body odour, Elder Ajuwa also told the Grade A Customary Court sitting in Lagos State that his wife is also lazy and has failed to fulfil her obligations as a married woman and a disgrace to womanhood.
“I do not know why I must continue with this marriage. My so called wife can’t cook or keep the home. She’s so lazy and dirty I can’t even sleep with her; the only thing she knows is to dress up and go to parties. I want a divorce.
I can’t continue with this marriage; it is better to be a bachelor than stay married to this excuse of a woman. She has failed at being a woman. I married her so she could take care of me after my first wife died; this is the worst mistake I ever made.
She can’t keep the home or cook. Every corner of our house stinks and unless I sweep, she doesn’t. Our rooms are filled with dirty laundry and I had to take my two children from my late wife to her family for proper care because I don’t want them in her care because she will turn them to slaves.
She is so dirty that I can’t even sleep with her; I buy food because our kitchen is too dirty to cook. Anytime I clean it up, she messes the house up again.
She never stays at home, once she gets one clean cloth and can dig her makeup out of the dung-hill she created in the room and a corner of the sitting room, she’s off. She rarely takes her bath. I have tried my best to make her change without success. Please separate us,” Elder Ajuwa told the court.
His wife, however, all the allegations levelled against her. In her defence, she told the court that her husband does not like her going out and is too autocratic.
“I am a small girl and he wants me to dress like an old woman. That I’m married doesn’t mean I should act like a dead woman. I want my marriage to work but my husband needs to relax his stance.
His other allegation is in bad faith because I have told him that the house is too big for me alone to maintain.”
The court has given the couple two months to see if they can resolve their issues and adjourned the case.
